The Secret

Door’s on the latch, Tom…

Before the madness of Blogging 201 kicks off on Monday (yes, I’ve decided to keep going), I thought I’d record a few thoughts as they lie right now.

More a record for my own sake than anything else, I just think sometimes putting things out there makes me accountable for them, and for any changes I wish to make. We’ll see about that of course, I thought talking about running would make me do it all the time and I’m still working up to that.

Anyway, the first thing I want to say is that I’m not that big on self-help books and all that jazz.

I believe in self help, am all for loving yourself and doing whatever it takes to make yourself happy. I’m respectful of other people turning to books, videos and anything to get what they need, but you won’t find me in the Self Help aisle rummaging for answers. Maybe I’m missing out.

But once upon a time I did read The Secret and it changed something. I’ve talked about it before elsewhere but the gist is that I was at the end of a bad scene, feeling hopeless and I picked up the book my best friend had left lying about after a visit.

It just made sense. Put out positive vibes, ask the Universe for the things you want and get them. Sure, it’s unlikely Tom Hardy will be knocking on my door before the weekend is out just because I want him to, but it’s an attitude I can get behind. Think about what you want and envisage yourself getting and keeping it. PMA all day, every day.

After I’d read it, I wrote a list that looked a little something like this:

  • Get out of this relationship
  • Get a new job

Underneath the two main wishes I detailed what I wanted in a new man (call me shallow):

  • Tall
  • Dark
  • Green eyes
  • Reads Comics

I didn’t dare write any more than that but I hid that list and thought of it often. Perhaps the Perfect Boy list was subconscious since I already knew my husband then, though we hadn’t spoken in years and I couldn’t have imagined we’d end up together. (You guessed it, Mr B ticks all those boxes).

Maybe just admitting you want more is enough to ensure you make moves to get it. Or maybe it’s magic. Whatever it is, it works. It worked then and it can work now.

Houseboat in Amsterdam, you will be mine
Houseboat in Amsterdam, you will be mine

I did get out of that relationship, less than a month later and then I scored my dream job at a dating agency. So I believe in The Secret and I’ll tell anyone. Sorry, not sorry.

Today I think it’s time to go back to basics. I’m getting to the point of being done at work for many reasons and it’s making me feel sick. Things need to change and whether that’s me moving on or something more drastic, I have to think about it. I’m not comfortable with the way things are and I need to fix it.

I know I’m worth more and right now I’m working in an environment that makes me feel insecure, paranoid and frankly undervalued in every way.

Time for a Positive Thinking Spell, I think.

I might update on this topic every so often, you know just to check in. Hopefully the next instalment will be a more positive one, rather than “I screamed, threw something and was escorted from the building by the caretaker”.

Do you have a go to method for making changes/getting happy? If so, what is it? Are you willing to share your secrets with me?

4 thoughts on “The Secret

  1. I have mixed feelings about The Secret. I didn’t read the book, I took the easy route and watched a video on a friend’s suggestion.
    I agree that thinking positive thoughts is good for your well-being and that it makes you think of ways to go about getting what you want. I’m also in somewhat of a rut and good vibes aren’t going to get me out of it. A huge chunk of money would help…maybe that’s what I need to visualize, huh? 🙂
    Best of luck to you and I’ll see you in Blogging 201!

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    1. Yeah that would do it, ha! I’ve never seen the video actually, maybe I’ll Youtube it later. I know it’s really the realisation that you need to make your own changes that does it. I hope you get out of your rut soon, it’s frustrating when you find yourself in one isn’t it? It’s hard to see yourself out of it.

      Thanks love and glad you’re doing 201 too! Looking forward to it and your posts! 😆


  2. I’ve never read The Secret but maybe I need to! Close to throwing things around my workplace myself! Good luck with blogging 201, I decided to give this one a miss to find my blogging feet, hope it’s useful for you, you’ll have to let me know if it’s worth taking on the challenge next time it runs! Looking forward to seeing where it takes you!
    P.S. The pacman-esque background is awesome!

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    1. Oh no, I hope things aren’t too bad for you. Let me know if you do read it!

      Thanks for the 201 well wishes, I most definitely will let you know how it goes. I think it’s cool you’re doing your own thing for now, I’m enjoying your work. Thanks for all the support lovely girl xoxo


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